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Dec 2023
15m 11s

#124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts about trust, risk and vulnerability. Many of us would prefer to trust only when we've completely de-risked or have some semblance of certainty that we won't get hurt, but unfortunately this is entirely at odds with the inherent vulnerability of trust. 

We'll cover:

  • why our fear will always keep us on the lookout for ways in which we might get hurt
  • how trust and vulnerability interface with fear and risk-aversion
  • why we need to let go of trying to control the future
  • how we can start to view trust as a choice rather than a feeling

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