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Nov 2023
13m 34s

from human doing to human being [preview...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

Author John Bradshaw (the author of “Healing the Shame that Binds You”) was one of the first to introduce the idea that we are human BE-ings, not human DO-ings. This catchy expression has particular relevance to those of us who get so busy performing activities “out in the world” that we begin to determine our worth through external measures at the expense of pausing, grounding, and having faith in our inherent value as living beings. Today, you’ll hear a free preview of part one of a relaxed sit-down chat with my friend Melanie. We discuss becoming more cognizant of the difference between always hustling, checking off to-do lists, and getting things done (human doing) versus taking a breather, being mindful, and just soaking in the moment (human being). The 'doing' mode (the mode most of us spend most of our time in), it's all about external wins and achievements, where your identity is basically what you've accomplished. On the flip side, the 'being' mode is about tuning into yourself, reflecting, and enjoying who you are beyond the never ending to-do list of things you “should” be doing.


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