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Nov 2023
33m 13s

Hurting the One You Love

Bbc Radio 4
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Growing up in Newport with his mum and younger brother, Connor Allen struggled with his identity as a mixed race kid. He bottled up his feelings and as the anger and frustration built up, could not find the words to express his emotions. When his rage erupted into violence against his mum, she ended up doing the unthinkable and calling the police. He faced a prison sentence, his future at a crossroads.

Connor tells his story to Dr Sian Williams in front of a live audience at the Hay Festival in May 2023.

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