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Nov 2023
1h 45m

Hack Your Love Life: Hormones & Happines...

Dave Asprey
About this episode

I’ve been eagerly looking forward to this conversation with a dear friend and a true luminary in the realm of relationships and personal development, John Gray. for quite some time. You probably recognize his name as the author of the famous book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. 

But what's especially exciting is how John has evolved his insights to address the changing dynamics between men and women in the modern world, as he highlighted in his 2020 book, Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Today's Complex World.

Now, why is this episode a must-listen? Well, John isn't just a relationship expert; he's also a seasoned biohacker who understands the profound impact of our environment – including relationships – on our hormones, happiness, and dopamine levels. In essence, he's been biohacking before it even had a name. With decades of wisdom, he offers invaluable insights into navigating the complexities of male-female relationships in today's world.

Delve into the fundamental differences between men and women, the importance of appreciation in relationships, what truly motivates men, and practical tips on boosting testosterone and managing emotions. We also explore how men and women process feelings differently, the art of setting boundaries, and the language of love as the language of hormones.

Get ready for a masterclass in understanding the dynamics of modern relationships and how to create lasting happiness.

(00:59) Understanding Fundamental Differences Between Men & Women

(04:38) Do Men Exist To Make Women Happy?

(06:32) Exploring What Drives & Motivates Men

(11:09) How To Boost Testosterone & Navigate Emotions

(19:14) Why Men Disconnect When Talking About Feelings

(30:22) How Men Can Help Women Come Back Into Balance

(39:17) Setting Boundaries & Working on Your Relationship

(49:41) Advice for Women for How To Talk About Their Feelings With Their Partner

(01:02:22) Why the Language of Love Is the Language of Hormones

(01:05:48) What Women Need in a Relationship

(01:13:07) The Defense Against Attacks on Your Reputation

(01:17:49) Techniques for Processing Emotions

(01:25:32) Thoughts on Estrogen Receptor Degraders

(01:31:48) What Masturbation Does to Men vs. Women

(01:37:42) Advice for Couples Not Having Sex

Resources

Dave Asprey’s NEW Book ‘Smarter Not Harder’ is out now: https://daveasprey.com/books 

Website: marsvenus.com

Read: Beyond Venus and Mars by John Gray

Instagram: @johngraymarsvenus_official

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/marsvenus

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