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Nov 2023
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E666 Ask Nick - My Gay BFF Is in Love Wi...

Nick Viall
About this episode

Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we check-in with Ali, who just moved back home to Minnesota. We also read a submission from a writer-iner who is married, but has a crush on her coworker. She’s been lacking a spark with her husband, and wants to know if there is any harm in an innocent crush to fill that void. We then get to our callers. 

Our first caller’s gay best friend is in love with her. He’s been confessing his feelings to their friend group and it’s making her extremely uncomfortable. She’s not sure where these feelings are coming from, or how to address them. Our second caller worries her boyfriend’s job is ruining their relationship. Her boyfriend owns a business and dedicates practically all his time to that, leaving our caller to feel unwanted and unloved. He’s never reassured her that he wants to be with her long term, so she’s not sure why she’s sticking it out. Our final caller can’t move on from her situationship. This is their second time situationing, yet there has still been no progress to an actual relationship. She’s wondering if there’s any hope, or if not, how she can possibly let go.

“The only way to save this is to break up with him.” 

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