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Nov 2023
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Episode 240: The Truth About Masturbatio...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
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It’s November again, which means that the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November” is back in full force. This challenge originated on Reddit several years back and it seems to spread and bring in new participants each year. The basic idea is that you’re not allow to masturbate or otherwise orgasm for the entire month, and it seems to be rooted in the idea that self-pleasure is inherently bad for you. But is that really the case? In today's show, we're going to revisit one of Sex and Psychology’s "Essential Listens," my interview with Dr. Eric Sprankle back in episode 96. Eric is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and the co-director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He's also a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. His first book comes out next year and is titled DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation. In our original conversation, Eric and I talked all about the history of masturbation and some of the myths surrounding masturbation today. Some of the topics we discussed include:
  • What makes masturbation in humans unique compared to other species that do it?
  • What kinds of masturbation “cures” were used in the past to discourage this behavior?
  • What do we think about when we engage in self-pleasure?
  • Does abstinence actually boost testosterone levels?
  • How can we have a healthier relationship with porn and masturbation?
To learn more, check out Eric's website and check out my other conversation with Eric about navigating sexuality and religion in Episode 98. Thank you to our sponsors!  Earth and Salt offers a curated selection of sex toys, accessories, and gender expression gear to help you access your pleasure, your way. Visit Earth and Salt at earthandsaltshop.com, and use "Lehmiller" as the discount code for 15% off your next purchase.  Expand your sexual horizons with Beducated! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex ed directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 60% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: https://beducate.me/pd2345-lehmiller ***

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