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Nov 2023
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E663 Ask Nick - Should We Get Married fo...

Nick Viall
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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we discuss jobs we missed out on and a restaurant’s policy on charging a surcharge for “bad parenting.” We also read a submission from a writer-iner who asked a friend to be a flower girl in her wedding. She’s having a small wedding party, and wanted to include her work friend and thought this would be a nice way to do so. However, the friend was aghast at the suggestion of being a 27-year old flower girl. We then get to our callers. 

Our first caller wants to break up with her boyfriend, but hasn’t yet because she’s not sure how to handle the financial component. She’s currently unemployed as she studies for the BAR exam, so he pays for most aspects in her life, but she’s not sure if she can continue in the relationship despite this. Our second callers are wondering if they should continue their pattern of being unhinged, and get married. They’ve only been dating for a year and have already hit many relationship milestones, like moving in together and potentially buying a house. They’re wondering if they should hit the next milestone by getting married in order to obtain a Visa. Our final caller has a crush on her male friend, and is trying to figure out if he’s into her. Their mutual friend group is going on a trip soon, and they’ll be sharing a hotel room, and she wants to start putting out feelers if he might be interested in being more than friends. We help her craft an Instagram DM to send to him. 

“This is a classic #BookTok scenario.” 

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