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Nov 2023
20m 58s

#180: Detaching Self-Worth from Producti...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Mary is trying to undo decades of attaching her self-worth to her productivity.

Which is HARD to say the least.

This episode explores our limiting beliefs about productivity, while helping you detach your worth from your output.

You will learn...

  • why productivity is a trap
  • how to embrace doing nothing and let yourself rest
  • 2 book recommendations that’ll help you form a better relationship with time
  • practical tips for decoupling your sense of self-worth from how productive you feel

Remember: Who you are is not what you do. Your work is not your worth. Nothing you do will make you more valuable than you already are.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
4,000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/495x815
How To Do Nothing by Jenny Odell: https://amzn.to/498y0lp
Ep. 177 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Power of Slowing Down: https://spotify.link/LJFrTQgccEb
Ep. 125 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Productivity for Self-Lovers: https://spotify.link/NNhFH7dccEb
Ep. 79 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-Talk: https://spotify.link/q13zpNiccEb

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