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Oct 2023
49m 32s

The Enemies of Gratitude

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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One of the mysteries of human behavior is that it’s often easier for us to focus on what’s going wrong than on what’s going right in our lives. Why is that? Psychologist Thomas Gilovich studies the barriers that prevent us from feeling gratitude, and how we can overcome them. 
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