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Oct 2023
47m 11s

Please get off your phone and pay attent...

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode
When people you care about put their attention on other things, like games or their phone, you may feel like they are ignoring and even neglecting you. If they are, that doesn't feel very good. What should you do? Tell them get off their phone or else? Or is there a better way to get their attention? 
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