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Oct 2023
57 m

Advice From an Intimacy Expert (w/ Shan ...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram (Sexology, Lovers & Friends) joins Nicole to teach her how to radiate better vibes on dates, master the art of life goal prioritization, and explore the intriguing concept of marriage pacts. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be the intimacy coordinator on 'Too Hot to Handle'? Shan spills all the beans on that and more. Plus she gets personal, revealing how she turned a fuckbuddy into a spouse, and shares the guidelines governing her non-monogamous relationship.

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