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Oct 2023
1h 52m

Ep 41: Self pleasure, The Dark Feminine ...

Meg and Jacob O'Neill
About this episode

It’s a first here at Sex, Love & Everything in between. 

This week instead of Jacob, we have my glorious friend & fellow sex coach, Lola Richie. 

I literally told Lola before we recorded… I want this to just be like everyone is listening to one of our usual conversations. 

And it was. 

In this mammoth of an episode we spoke about… 


  • The very unusual way we first met 
  • Our love of sex in front of a mirror 
  • Lola’s recent journey from polyamory to monogamy 
  • Performative pleasure vs embodied pleasure 
  • Self pleasure as a healing modality 
  • Why mind-blowing orgasms aren’t just about ‘the mechanics’ 
  • The importance of honouring Pussy 
  • Having discernment around sexual partners 
  • Why we love anal sex 
  • Anal as a portal to deep surrender 
  • How to get the most pleasure from anal sex 



MORE ABOUT LOLA: 

Known for her playful, sassy, fiery energy, Lola is a highly respected Somatic Sexologist and Yoni Massage Therapist.


She is incredibly passionate about the intersection of sex, art, the wild, and the sacred, working with Visionary Leaders to create audacious lives drenched in erotic aliveness and deep embodiment.


Her unique approach weaves the science, psychology, and spirituality of sex, creating a delectable fusion where ancient practices like yoga, meditation, and tantra intertwine with cutting-edge research in neuroscience, psychology, and somatic theory.


Lola loves to spark open, raw, provocative conversations, and create a safe space for you to explore your wildest fantasies, integrate your shadows, and bring your deepest heart’s desires to life.

Instagram: @thelolarichie
https://www.instagram.com/thelolarichie/ 

PLEASURE ANATOMY: THE WORKSHOP - Get your early bird ticket here: 

https://www.fullspectrumwoman.com/pleasure-anatomy

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