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Oct 2023
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Fucking Feelings: The Attunement Model o...

Fucking Cancelled
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In Episode 56, we announce that Fucking Cancelled has moved to substack! Please follow us fuckingcancelled.substack.com if you haven’t already, and consider becoming a supporter of the pod for $5 Canadian a month. You’ll get a bunch of bonus content and help keep the podcast alive! After this announcement we discuss Clementine’s attunement model of consent, which she wrote about in her zine, The Forgotten Art of Fucking. This model includes: attunement, shared responsibility, mixed styles of communication, valuing the erotic, and recognizing the inherent risk in sexuality. Clementine offers this model as an alternative to the contractual model of consent that defines consent only as ongoing verbal asking throughout sex.

Part of the Fucking Feelings series.

Show Notes

Consent for people's real sex lives where we don't sound like robots

The Forgotten Art of Fucking

Talking Shit with Zachary Zane: Sex is a Huge Part of My Sexuality

Refusing to be Accountable: Responsibility, Boundaries, Intervention and Punishment

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Theme song by ST x LIAM.

Mixing and editing by Charlotte Dora.

Jay Lesoleil is a writer, artist, and shelter worker from Montréal with a background in political anthropology. Jay is also one half of the podcast Fucking Cancelled.

Clementine Morrigan is a socialist-feminist writer, educator, and public intellectual based in Montréal, Canada. She writes popular and controversial essays about culture, politics, sexuality, and trauma. A passionate believer in independent media, she’s been making zines since the year 2000 and is the author of several books. She’s known for her iconic white-text-on-a-black-background mini-essays on Instagram. One of the leading voices on the Canadian Left and one half of the Fucking Cancelled podcast, Clementine is an outspoken critic of cancel culture and proponent of building solidarity across difference.



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