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Sep 2023
44m 54s

Hurting Each Other

Sven Erlandson
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In Emily's story, the abuse went both ways. After suffering a miscarriage, her husband severely beat her...after she threw a broken glass at him when he called her crazy in public. They later had a son, but the two-way abuse continued until they divorced. Now co-parenting, Emily wonders why she still loves her ex-husband even though she knows she deserves better. Sven asks, "Can feelings of love be detrimental?" as he counsels Emily to stop avoiding her painful feelings and get on with the hard work of healing for her son, and herself. Explicit content.

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