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Sep 2023
13m 47s

What It Really Means to "Find Yourself"

The Angry Therapist
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In this episode, John talks about how your sense of self is always changing, what connecting to yourself looks like, and how "finding yourself" is a never-ending journey.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares hi ... Show More
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