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Sep 2023
51m 17s

17. The Misconceptions of Violence and S...

Kelly Sayre & Doug Patteson
About this episode

Depictions of self-defense and violence in TV and film naturally give us a sense of safety and reassurance that the bad guy will lose and that you should always take a criminal head on. Unfortunately, the theatrics of it all have given men (and women) a false look at self-defense. In this week’s episode, Kelly and Doug speak with martial arts and self-defense expert, Wim Demeere. Together they discuss the complexities behind self-defense including: taking ownership over your actions, the importance of leaving your ego at the door, and de-escalating tense situations before violence occurs. 

For more of Wim’s instructional self-defense content, check out his Patreon site, updated monthly. There are over a thousand posts and hundreds of videos as he’s been doing this for over five years now. There is something at a price point for everybody and you can try it for free for a week.

Other topics we discussed:

  • Negative effects of romanticism of violence in TV and film
  • How to not let your ego affect your decisions in conflict
  • Understanding the distinctions between social and criminal violence
  • Defining your mission before conflict ever arises
  • Deescalation tactics for when a conflict occurs 
  • The importance of self-awareness and ownership in conflict
  • How to face threats from other individuals (Peyton Quinn’s Rules)
  • Why face-saving exit in conflict isn’t the safest option
  • The Highway of Violence

Wim Demeere has almost 40 years of training in several martial arts and self-defense systems: Kung Fu, Tai Chi Chuan, Sanshou, muay Thai, MMA, etc. 

He has been a full-time personal trainer since 1994, has occasionally worked as a bouncer, and in his words, he had a non-eventful military service. Wim has been a national champion Quinda multiple times, and won a bronze medal at 1993 Wushu World Championships Sanshou (-90Kg). Wim has shared his knowledge with thousands of people as the author of numerous instructional books, self-defense videos, and his podcast  titled, Wim Demeere’s Podcast. He is the owner and writer of one of the oldest martial arts and self-defense blogs, Wimsblog.com.

Connect with Wim:

Website: https://wimsblog.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ptccm 

IG:  @wimdemeere 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WimDemeerePage 

Check out the blog post referenced in this video: https://wimsblog.com/2013/04/self-defense-tips-for-men/ 

Connect with Doug and Kelly: 

Follow The Diamond Arrow Group on Instagram and Facebook, and Kelly Sayre on LinkedIn and Twitter.

You can find Doug at @texasspydad, or on LinkedIn and Twitter.

Check Kelly’s new book Sharp Women that guides you through embracing your best self-defense weapon - your intuition.    

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