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Aug 2023
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Steven Kotler: Peak Performance and Gett...

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When life feels hard, does “peak performance” mean anything? 

 

Steven Kotler is known as the NYT best selling author of books like Stealing Fire and The Rise of Superman, but can the science of stretching limits apply to grief of any kind? If you look beyond the slick language of bio-hacking and extreme sports typically found in discussions on peak performance, it turns out there’s something here for all of us. 



In this episode we cover: 

 

  • How peak performance applies to your life - even if you’re not an athlete
  • Why gratitude tends to work better than affirmations
  • The scientific reason why play is good for you - and important for healthy aging
  • The first three days of grief: what loss is like inside a hospice-based dog rescue
  • How a change in mindset can extend your life by eight years (but that’s not the same as toxic positivity)

 

Related episodes:

 

What’s It All For? Loss and Meaning in Midlife with Chip Conley

 

Pet Loss and Veterinarians Who Cry: with Veterinary Oncologist and Author Dr. Renee Alsarraf

 

Connection is the Best Medicine: with Dr. Rana Adwish



Notable quotes: 

“Limits are liberating.” – Steven Kotler

 

“Hope is about the collaborative effort.” – Steven Kotler



About our guest:

Steven Kotler is one of the world’s most renowned experts on human performance. His NYT best selling books include The Art of Impossible and The Rise of Superman. He’s the co-founder of Planet Home and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. Steven’s work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes, and appears in over 100 publications, including the Wall Street Journal, TIME, and the Harvard Business Review. His latest book, Gnar Country: Growing Old, Staying Rad, details the application of peak performance tenets on an aging body. Find him at stevenkotler.com 




About Megan: 

Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don’t call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. 

 

The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan’s It’s Ok that You’re Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world.



Additional resources:

The Art of Impossible: a Peak Performance Primer 

 

Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work

 

The Future Is Faster Than You Think by Peter H. Diamandis and Steven Kotler

 

The Rise of Superman: Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance

 

A Small Furry Prayer: Dog Rescue and the Meaning of Life

 

Rancho de Chihuahua - Joy and Steven’s non-profit dog sanctuary

 

Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine’s 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link.

 

Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for an inexpensive monthly open video Q&A clinic for grieving people. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here

 

Check out Megan’s best-selling books - It’s OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed 

 

Books and resources may contain affiliate links.

 

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