Our hearts are drawn quickly and beat fiercely with someone who is irresistible. That often is a narcissistic man or woman. They have our "numbers", are often very attractive and compelling. They give us so much attention in the beginning. The narcissist always wants something from us and it is not our welfare or peace of mind, or our creative, psychological or spiritual well being.
There is a strong human tendency to repeat patterns of behavior, especially those that are hurtful to us. Many children of narcissistic parents marry narcissists. It is not unusual for them to step into a marriage with someone who has fooled them completely with a grandiose false self full of confidence and who appears to care deeply about them.
If you suspect that your intended man or woman is a narcissist, remember what you learned about the characteristics of the narcissistic personality:
Narcissists are clever actors who convince others that they truly care about them.
Narcissists are consumed with creating and maintaining with their perfect image.
Does this individual over promise? Is he or she very grandiose and could possibly be delusional?
Is he or she the Golden Boy or Golden Girl in the family?
Does this person lack true empathy? The capacity to put yourself emotionally and psychologically in another person's place. Are they skilled at pseudo empathy?
How often are you catching him/her in lies? Narcissists are gifted liars.
Narcissistic personalities are not inclined to change. After all, they believe they are perfect and live in a delusion of their own making.
Prepare personally by putting the emphasis on taking vey good care of yourself. Take time to listen to music, spontaneous writing with a pen and your imagination, exercise in the way that works for you, good nutrition and hydration, a spiritual practice as you define it. Get the sleep and rest that you deserve. Seek anf find the beauty of Nature, our restorative, healing, transformational source. Ackowledge and feel deep inside an appreciation for who you really are: genuine, unique, talented, creative: a person of vision, empathy and integrity.
I have great faith in you and know that you will prevail. Let your light shine!
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