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Jul 2022
59m 48s

How to Quickly Identify and Disarm Narci...

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About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover narcissism with Lily Walford. Lily is an international dating coach and the survivor of a toxic narcissistic relationship.

Narcissists are all around us and can cause untold harm to our mental wellbeing, so what can you do to identify and disarm narcissists, how can you tell if you’re in a relationship with one, and what should you look for to avoid getting into a relationship with one?

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • What does narcissism look like?
  • How to identify narcissists – 15:30 
  • What signs can you look for if you think you’re dating a narcissist?
  • How do you know if someone is a narcissist?
  • Self-care after a relationship with a narcissist – 24:05
  • What can you do to take care of yourself after a toxic relationship with a narcissist?
  • Disarming Narcissists – 31:15
  • What can you to disarm a narcissist?
  • How will a narcissist stop you from disarming him or her?
  • Dating after a narcissist – 41:07
  • What 4 elements should you look for in a healthy relationship?
  • What can you do to reinvigorate a relationship?

Narcissists tend to be charismatic and successful. If you surround yourself with top performers, chances are there is a narcissist among them. So it’s important to be able to identify them before they wreak havoc on your personal and professional life. Additionally, there are steps you can take to disarm narcissists so they lose their power over you and the people around you. And if you find yourself dating a narcissist, make sure you take time after the relationship to identify what went wrong and be on the lookout for the 4 elements of a healthy relationship so you don’t end up dating another narcissist.

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