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Aug 2023
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35. For You: The Dating Advice We Wish W...

Not For Everyone
About this episode

You sent in your dating struggles; we pulled our best advice out of our asses. In this strange new world of app dating, constant anxiety, and ever-changing standards, how do we stay true to ourselves when looking for connection? Not super well, but everything we've learned in hindsight, we're here to share with you.

  • All things dating apps - filters and types, how long to talk before a date, and taking breaks when you're being the worst
  • First dates - the spark, whether chemistry can grow, why to turn a second date into your default, and allowing silence
  • Early stages - "normal" timelines, exclusivity and labels, and getting your ex out of your head
  • F**kboys, f**kgirls, and f**kems - texting, ghosting, and knowing when to walk away

Plus, some of YOUR best dating advice, and why this is all just one big animal style numbers game.

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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!

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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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