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Aug 2023
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35. For You: The Dating Advice We Wish W...

Not For Everyone
About this episode

You sent in your dating struggles; we pulled our best advice out of our asses. In this strange new world of app dating, constant anxiety, and ever-changing standards, how do we stay true to ourselves when looking for connection? Not super well, but everything we've learned in hindsight, we're here to share with you.

  • All things dating apps - filters and types, how long to talk before a date, and taking breaks when you're being the worst
  • First dates - the spark, whether chemistry can grow, why to turn a second date into your default, and allowing silence
  • Early stages - "normal" timelines, exclusivity and labels, and getting your ex out of your head
  • F**kboys, f**kgirls, and f**kems - texting, ghosting, and knowing when to walk away

Plus, some of YOUR best dating advice, and why this is all just one big animal style numbers game.

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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!

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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

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