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Jul 2023
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#95: 3 Essential Ingredients to Make a R...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Have you ever wondered why your relationship struggles persist, even when you love each other and have tried and tried to make it work?

In today's episode, I'm sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. These are fundamental pillars of healthy, lasting partnership - and yet, for a lot of people, one or more of these puzzle pieces are missing. 

We'll cover:

  • the importance of structural compatibility (ie, wanting the same thing)
  • being willing to invest in the relationship and the work it takes to make it thrive
  • the issue of capacity and how to know when someone can't give you what you're asking for (despite their best intentions)

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