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Jul 2023
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Britt Frank #3 | Discussion w/ Vienna Ph...

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We are looking at trauma not necessarily at the tragic level, but defined as, “a lasting, negative, and limiting emotional response that often results from living through a distressing event.” To this degree, nobody is immune. This is my series on anxiety. I had brought Britt Frank in as my expert and we talked through the message in her book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This is part three in the series where I bring in a peer to discuss the topic, and I have with me Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists, she has over 700k followers on Instagram, and I did a series with her around the message in her book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna is who recommended Britt to me. In this discussion, actually near the latter part, I ask Vienna about giving gravity to the trauma’s in our life and she actually corrects me and says we want to acknowledge them, but not give to much weight to them and distort them. The mic drop happens when she says, ““When we acknowledge something, we fear it gives power to IT, when instead, it gives power to US.” Acknowledge, don’t distort. This was incredibly insightful. 


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