logo
episode-header-image
Jul 2023
1h 14m

Three Strategies for Getting Over Yourse...

10% Happier
About this episode

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.

---

Every year, Joseph Goldstein does a three month silent meditation retreat by himself at his home in Massachusetts. In this conversation you're about to hear, Joseph had just emerged from one such retreat with a bunch of thoughts on what are called the three proliferating tendencies or three papañca to use the ancient Pali term. 

These are three ways in which we perpetuate an unhealthy sense of self. Joseph has explained that you can think about the process of going deeper in meditation as a process of lightening up or getting less self-centered. You're about to get a masterclass in doing just that. 

For the uninitiated, Joseph is one of the co-founders of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts. His co-founders are two other meditation titans, Sharon Salzberg and Jack Kornfield. Joseph has been a teacher at IMS since it was founded in the seventies and he continues to be the resident guiding teacher there. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • The framework for understanding the three proliferating tendencies; the basic building blocks of our experience in the world
  • Six things that make up what the Buddha called “the all” 
  • What non-self means and why it's essential to the Buddhist teaching of liberation
  • The two levels of truth: conventional and ultimate
  • Why language is so important in conditioning how we experience things 
  • How the three proliferating tendencies provide a very practical guide to understanding how we manufacture our own suffering

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/joseph-goldstein-364-rerun

Up next
Yesterday
Three Strategies for Getting Over Yourself | Joseph Goldstein
Every year, Joseph Goldstein does a three month silent meditation retreat by himself at his home in Massachusetts. In this conversation you're about to hear, Joseph had just emerged from one such retreat with a bunch of thoughts on what are called the three proliferating tendenci ... Show More
1h 16m
Oct 8
How To Find Calm in a World on Fire | Pico Iyer
The antidote to a noisy, chaotic world. Pico Iyer is the acclaimed and bestselling author of more than a dozen books translated into twenty-three languages, most recently the nationally bestselling Aflame: Learning from Silence. In this episode we talk about: Why and how Pico fou ... Show More
1h 9m
Oct 6
Are You a Grudge Holder or a Revenge Seeker? Here’s How It’s Hurting You – And How To Get Over It | James Kimmel, Jr.
The psychology and neuroscience of revenge. James Kimmel, Jr. is a lecturer in psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine, an expert on revenge, a lawyer, and the founder and co-director of the Yale Collaborative for Motive Control Studies. He is the creator of The Nonjustice Syst ... Show More
1h 11m
Recommended Episodes
Oct 2023
Buddhism and the Impermanence of Life || Joseph Goldstein
Today we welcome Joseph Goldstein to the podcast. Joseph is a co-founder and the guiding teacher of the Insight Meditation Society (IMS) along with Jack Kornfield and Sharon Salzberg. He is one of the first American vipassana teachers and has been teaching Buddhist meditation wor ... Show More
1h 13m
Feb 2024
“Getting Over Yourself”: A conversation with Tara Brach and Stephen Josephs
Executive coach and author Stephen Josephs has worked with many top business leaders, guiding them in transcending the egoic conditioning that limit their impact on other people, and on societal change. In this conversation we look at what he’s learned about inner freedom and awa ... Show More
1h 4m
Feb 2024
Overcoming Your Biggest Fears, Day 7 Master Your Emotions Meditations
Be guided with meditation to master your biggest fears by mastering your emotions. Welcome to the "Master Your Moods" 7-day meditation series. In this transformative journey, we will explore techniques and insights aimed at empowering you to take control of your emotional landsca ... Show More
10m 3s
Jan 2024
#165: Overcoming Challenges by Remembering the Gifts of Yoga
As we journey on the spiritual path, we seek answers for our ever questioning minds. What is the meaning of life? What is my purpose? Can I really be bothered to do primary series today? Healthy questioning offers us meaningful personal growth but it is indeed part of the practic ... Show More
1h 2m
Feb 2024
Calming Breath to Navigate Change, Day 3 Navigating Change Meditation Series
Be guided with breathing technique to soothe anxiety and uncertainty as you navigate change. Embark on a transformative journey with our meditation series, 'Navigating Change.' Discover inner resilience and peace as you navigate life's inevitable transitions. Through guided medit ... Show More
13m 34s
Feb 2024
Affirmation to Navigate Change, Day 2 Navigating Change Meditation Series
Be guided with an affirmation to prepare yourself for navigating changes in the world and within your life. Embark on a transformative journey with our meditation series, 'Navigating Change.' Discover inner resilience and peace as you navigate life's inevitable transitions. Throu ... Show More
13m 28s
Feb 2024
70. Why is Modern Day Porn So Addictive? Understanding the Psychology of Intermittent Rewards
Join host Jeremy Lipkowitz in this eye-opening episode of Unhooked as he delves into the captivating science behind the addictive nature of modern pornography. Discover the hidden psychology of intermittent rewards and how it keeps you hooked, while also gaining insights into bre ... Show More
9m 17s
Feb 2024
71. Jord Cuiper - The Leadership Coach Helping Men Overcome Fear & the 'Wrong Mountain' Syndrome
In this engaging episode of the Unhooked podcast, host Jeremy Lipkowitz and self-leadership coach Jord Cuiper explore personal growth, self-trust, and the courage to embrace change. They examine the 'first mountain syndrome' as a metaphor for a life path lacking joy and ... Show More
1h 26m
Feb 2024
Navigating Life's Shifts, Day 1 Navigating Change Meditations
How you navigate change charts the way you manage a new direction in your life. Embark on a transformative journey with our meditation series, 'Navigating Change.' Discover inner resilience and peace as you navigate life's inevitable transitions. Through guided meditations, culti ... Show More
13m 2s
Feb 2024
73. The ONE most important thing you can do for your recovery from addiction
In this episode, we unpack the essence of addiction: the relentless pursuit of immediate gratification at the expense of our future selves. From the allure of that tempting cookie to the allure of fleeting distractions like pornography, we confront the harsh reality of our choice ... Show More
11m 29s