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Jul 2023
1h 14m

shame series part 3: toxic shame and 'di...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

This is part THREE in our multi-episode series aimed at helping you alchemize and transmute your toxic shame. First, we confront the detrimental effects of toxic shame, its correlation with personality disorder labels, and its potential role in criminal behavior. We’ll also tackle how unprocessed toxic shame from childhood can manifest as traits of grandiose narcissism, causing individuals to seek validation through exaggerated self-importance. Finally, we’ll discover how the burden of shame can stifle our spiritual growth and impede our quest for self-discovery and our connection with others. Tune in to this captivating episode as we uncover the deep-rooted effects of toxic shame on our psyche and gain insights into how we can heal and reclaim our authentic selves.

 

Check out the time stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered in this episode:

00:00 – 07:18: Reflecting on what we’ve learned so far and an introduction to this episode’s topics

07:19 – 19:46: Toxic shame and personality disorder labels

19:38 – 34:41: Toxic shame and guilt in criminal behavior (recidivism prediction)

PREMIUM | My Stupid Walk for My Stupid Mental Health – “head-fucked by perfectionism (ft. a very special surprise guest)”

34:37 – 37:00: Toxic shame and sexual abuse (will be expanded upon in a further episode)

37:00 – 45:17: How unprocessed toxic shame from childhood can lead to feelings of grandiosity (grandiose narcissism)

45:17 – 49:25: Toxic shame and spiritual starvation

49:25 – 59:24: The dehumanizing quality of toxic shame


59:00 – end: [PREMIUM PORTION] My Stupid Walk for My Stupid Mental Health – “head-fucked by perfectionism (ft. a surprise appearance by my partner Zaz)

 

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