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Jun 2023
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99. Essential Communication Tools for An...

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In this episode, Jess connects with Emily, Dedeker, and Jase from the Multiamory podcast, who are also the co-authors of their recently released book, "Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships." They share the inspiration behind their book and explore the journey they took to bring it to life. The hosts engage in a lively discussion about the various relationship tools and chapters featured in their book. This is not another “How To” book! Additionally, the Multiamory hosts reveal their favorite tools and explain why they find them valuable. The conversation takes a deeper dive into the realm of creating healthy communication within relationships and offer insightful advice on overcoming disagreements in relationships in a simpler way.

 

In this episode of Open Late:

 

  • The story behind the Multiamory book
  • Different tools to create safe conversation in your relationship
  • The significance of scheduling Radar Check-ins
  • Discussing also why things are going well in relationships
  • Finding community that understands and listens to your needs



Connect with Multiamory:

• Website: https://www.multiamory.com/

• Book: https://www.multiamory.com/book

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/multiamory_podcast/

• Become a Patreon/ Join the Discord : https://www.patreon.com/bePatron?c=256168

• Link to buy the Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships book: multiamory.com/book


Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com 

• YouTube: Open Late Podcast

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• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

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Quotes from the episode:

9:05  It's inevitable that whether you're in a triad, trying to get a threesome, solo poly, or maybe you want to find your monogamous married soulmate, or whatever it is, you're going to run into some communication problems. So we wrote a book and mapped out some tools you can use. Dedeker 

12:48 The point is to not just jump to what it is that you think your partner needs but rather ask. Maybe say “what are you looking for here” or for you to tell your partner “hey all that I need from you right now is this”. Emily

13:45 I don't always know what I want, especially with my partner. Jessica Esfandiary

16:50 What people struggle with the most is how to communicate about their relationship choices to the people that don't understand their relationship choices. Jessica Esfandiary

19:00 Finding a good online community is difficult. Jase

19:10 I found that it is often better to communicate in person because we tend to be less shitty to each other face-to-face than we are online. Jase

24:00 When I say “I want to have a talk” it’s often associated with “Oh that's gonna be bad. This is gonna be stressful. You have a complaint.” What I love about Radar Check-in is, that it helps to take away some of those notions because in it you also talk about the stuff that's going well, stuff that's challenging, future plans and, maybe things you want to try.. Jase

28:48 Even if you know a person extremely well, you can never fully know exactly what's going on with them. Their desires and needs for something new and exciting in the relationship, even if things are going great, is a great opportunity for a Radar Check-in. Emily



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