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May 2023
20m 32s

#72: 5 Tips for Loving Someone Well

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips on how to love someone well. So often, we think we are being loving towards someone - when really, we are pursuing our own agenda of loving them with strings attached. We love in order to get something in return, and then feel secretly resentful when things don't go our way. So instead, I'm sharing how to love someone in a way that feels pure and open-hearted.

We'll cover:

  • the importance of gratitude 
  • voicing appreciation and recognition of someone's contribution
  • how to accept someone rather than control or change them
  • taking responsibility for your own happiness
  • staying curious about your partner's inner world

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