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May 2023
59m 25s

recovering human connection through rupt...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

In this soul-stirring episode, we dive into the raw, resonant prose of Amanda Palmer’s article, What it feels like to get divorced—and possibly remarried—at TED 2023. This piece, originally shared on her Substack, captured my heart so profoundly that I wanted to read it aloud and share it with you, creating a moment of reflection for anyone struggling with life’s most complicated emotions. So brew a warm cup of tea, settle into your coziest spot, and let me read you some words that might help you feel a little less alone.


Through Palmer’s words, we explore themes of heartbreak, transformation, and resilience. She grapples with the disorienting aftermath of her divorce, the weight of parenting through tumultuous times, and the surreal experience of navigating these emotions against the backdrop of a TED conference. Palmer’s reflections on love, loss, identity, and belonging are both intimate and universal—giving voice to the raw edges of human experience.


Episode Highlights and Topics Discussed:


  • Divorce and Reinvention: Palmer’s reflections on ending a marriage and the bittersweet hope of starting anew
  • The Crisis of Belonging: Exploring humanity’s collective need for connection in a world increasingly defined by isolation
  • The Power of Pain as a Teacher: Why embracing emotional pain, rather than numbing it, can foster growth and healing
  • Mental Health in a Chaotic World: How Palmer’s honesty about grief, anxiety, and the complexities of parenting offers comfort to those facing similar battles
  • The Fragility and Resilience of the Human Spirit: From ancient wisdom to modern struggles, how the desire for connection and self-acceptance remains timeless

 

TIME STAMPS

 

00:00 – 01:53: Intro

01:53 – 04:37: Why I chose to read the article on today’s episode / intro of Amanda Palmer and her work

04:37 – 50:06: Storytime reading of “What it feels like to get divorced—and possibly remarried—at TED 2023” by Amanda Palmer

50:06 – 51:26: Article reflections

51:45: Preview of SWSMH 19

 

BFTB BONUS: SWSMH #19 (preview): seeing the synchronicities: This week’s Stupid Walk is all about listening, but not in the way you’d expect. We’re diving into the concept of synchronicities. In psychology, synchronicity is defined as the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause. During our walk, I’ll discuss examples of synchronicities in my own life and how they’ve shaped my recovery journey.

 

RESOURCES


·     “What it feels like to get divorced—and possibly remarried—at TED 2023,” full article by Amanda Palmer

·     Amanda Palmer’s Substack


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