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Apr 2023
59 m

Lesbian Sex (w/ Ashley Gavin)

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring and tribbing, having secret girlfriends in high school, and the details of her open relationship. Ashley also shares her experience being the first openly gay comedian on Carnival Cruise Line, and the homophobia she encountered on the job. Nicole witnesses a bouncer get stabbed at a lesbian bar. 

Watch Ashley's new comedy special at: youtube.com/watch?v=Ay6jUYPH644&

 

Submit your dirty message for Nicole!  Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.

 

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Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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