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Apr 2023
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#69: "When is taking a break in a relati...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm answering the community question of "when is it a good idea to take a break in a relationship?" This can be a really tricky situation, particularly where one person wants to take a break and the other doesn't. 

In this episode, I share:

  • things to consider & discuss before taking a break
  • do's and don'ts of taking a break
  • examples of where a break can be healthy & productive
  • navigating boundaries around taking a break (e.g. around duration, exclusivity, and intentions)

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