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Apr 2023
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E569 Ask Nick - I’m a Lesbian Dating a M...

Nick Viall
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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we talk about our favorite types of bread and what to do if you notice that someone you’re dating has updated their dating profile. We then get our latest Breakup Song of the Week submission. 

Our first caller is in an eight year relationship with her boyfriend, but knows that she’s a lesbian. She’s wondering if she should stick it out because of the child and house they share together, try an open relationship, or leave him and try to find a new life with a woman. Our second caller is going to a thousand person matchmaking event but is still hung up on her ex. They broke up for religious reasons, and shortly afterward he met someone new and is now engaged. We discuss how she can move on from that relationship in order to take advantage of this new opportunity. Our final caller is wondering how she can get over a one-sided break up with her long distance boyfriend who ghosted her and never spoke to her again. She’s sent texts and a physical letter, but has no idea what happened or why the relationship ended. 

“That wasn’t fate or destiny, that was just a dumb coincidence.” 

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