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Apr 2023
50m 23s

Crying Wolf

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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It used to be that we tried our best to conceal disadvantages, hardships, and humiliations. But new research explores a curious shift: some people are flaunting limitations that don't exist. This week, we talk to psychologists Karl Aquino and Jillian Jordan about the strange phenomenon of wanting to seem worse off than we really are. 
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