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Apr 2023
28m 33s

Painful Intercourse and Vaginismus

Francie Winslow
About this episode

It’s not uncommon to experience painful intercourse and it might even be related to a condition that should be addressed. In today’s episode we are talking about vaginismus and painful intercourse. You will hear about the mind, body, spirit connection, why we see painful intercourse more prevalently in Christian women and some practical thoughts and resources to help find solutions.

 

God made your body wonderfully. You are not broken and you are certainly not alone.

 

Full disclosure: This episode is not intended to diagnose, treat or cure any condition. I am not a medical doctor or therapist, but I do think it’s important for you to know about resources so you can be informed, talk to your doctor and get the help you need.

 

Resources Mentioned:

Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start, A Guide for Engaged in Newlywed Couples by Clifford and Joyce Penner

Hope & Her

Completely Overcome Vaginismus: The Practical Approach to Pain-Free Intercourse

 

Related Episodes:

Before You Say “I Do” with Bethany Beal, episode 139

Invitation to Discover Your Wonderful Female Body, episode 104

Body Blessing and Shame Healing, episode 44

 

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Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming 

a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

 

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