logo
episode-header-image
Apr 2023
1h 7m

The Science of a Deeply-Connected Marria...

Jonathan Fields / Acast
About this episode

The science is crystal clear, deep, genuine, healthy and enduring relationships are at the center of a well-lived life. But, so often, it’s the long-term intimate partnerships that we take most for granted or give least attentiveness to. Just assuming they’ll keep on keeping on. Until they don’t. So how DO you keep your relationship with someone you hope to be a life partner not just alive, but truly rich and flourishing and nourishing and joyful? Especially over a period of years or, if you’re fortunate enough, decades? What’s the secret to maintaining passion and connection throughout the years?


That’s where we’re headed in this eye-opening conversation with professor Eli Finkel, as we dive deep into the world of romantic relationships. Eli is the author of the bestselling book The All-Or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work.


You'll discover:

  1. The surprising impact of engaging in exciting, out-of-the-ordinary activities on relationship satisfaction and passion.
  2. How to distinguish between activities that foster closeness and those that reignite desire.
  3. The unexpected benefits of breaking out of routines and embracing new challenges together.


And, lots more. During our conversation, we delve into the intricacies of maintaining passion in long-term relationships, discussing the importance of novelty, and exploring the potential benefits of breaking out of routines in the aftermath of the pandemic. Eli shares valuable insights on how couples can be deliberate about rebooting their relationships and resetting priorities, all while creating meaningful connections and lasting memories.


You can find Eli at: Website | Twitter


If you LOVED this episode you’ll also love the conversations we had with Julie and John Gottman about love and marriage.


Check out our offerings & partners: 



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Up next
Today
The 4 Chemicals That Secretly Run Your Life (and How to Rebalance Them) | Tj Power
What if your phone is actually training your brain to feel less motivated, less connected, and more stressed?In this fascinating conversation, neuroscientist TJ Power, author of The DOSE Effect: An Inspiring Self-Healing Guide About the Mind-Body-Hormonal Connection, reveals how ... Show More
1h 4m
Jul 7
Reclaim Your Free Time: Simple Strategies to Take Back Your Life | Jenny Blake
What if working less could actually make you more effective? In this perspective-shifting conversation, Jenny Blake (author of Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business) reveals how she runs multiple successful companies working just 20 hours a week, and shares her revolut ... Show More
1h 24m
Jul 3
Finding Joy in a Life You Never Saw Coming | Jessica Slice
From high-flying real estate mogul to proud disabled mother, Jessica Slice's transformative journey will shake you awake to your own yearnings. In this candid conversation, the Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World author exposes medicine's dehumanizing ... Show More
57m 57s
Recommended Episodes
Mar 2022
The SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
Over the years I’ve had the pleasure of sitting down with Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel. She’s recognized as one of today’s most insightful voices on modern relationships which is a bio that I completely agree with. Today I’m going to put toge ... Show More
1h 27m
Jun 2021
5 Keys to Find & Create the Perfect Relationship EP 1122
“Love expands when our capacity to accept each other expands.” - DeVon FranklinToday’s episode is a special one. We’ve had a lot of great conversations with guests about relationships and we wanted to put together a mashup of the best segments to help you take your relationship t ... Show More
1h 44m
Oct 2019
Esther Perel on Sexual Desire and Successful Relationships in the Modern World
Yes, we are talking about relationships again on  The School of Greatness. Partly because I love learning as much as possible about how to create and maintain healthy, amazing relationships (and I need a lot of coaching in my love life). But partly because I heard today’s guest s ... Show More
1h 20m
Jan 2022
Dr. Yael Schonbrun | Dos and Don’ts of Modern Dating
In today’s episode, we cover healthy relationships and finding the right partner with Dr Yael. Dr Yael is a licensed clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, and writer about parenting, work, and relationships. A healthy relationship takes work, but how do ... Show More
1h 12m
Aug 2019
212: Avoiding Newlywed and Long Term Relationship Pitfalls
Relationships can be relatively easy when you're in the early stages and all the happy chemicals are flowing. However, things can get quite difficult as time rolls on. Listen to today's show to learn the conversations you need to have to set your new marriage or long term relatio ... Show More
47m 23s
Jul 2023
The 3 Critical Building Blocks of All Life-Long Relationships EP 1475
The Summit of Greatness is back! Buy your tickets today – summitofgreatness.com – Esther Perel will help you understand why relationships are hard for some people in business or with an intimate partner, the different ways to make a relationship work, and how to manage distressed ... Show More
56m 23s
Sep 2019
216: Reconnecting and Dealing with Impossible Relationship Moments
Do you ever feel disconnected from your partner? Well, don't worry — at one point, all relationships will face various levels of disconnect. Listen to today's show to learn how to reconnect with your partner, and get through what might feel like an impossible relationship moment. ... Show More
55m 53s
Dec 2019
230: Avoiding Fatigue In A Long Term Relationship
Let's face it, being in a relationship is HARD WORK! Long term relationships are even harder. It's not a walk in the park to live with the same person for years and communicate, love, fornicate and just live a life. The more tools you have to continually do the work on your journ ... Show More
49m 27s
Nov 2020
What Makes a Good Marriage?
Eli Finkel, PhD, is a psychology professor at Northwestern University and the author of the fascinating book The All-or-Nothing Marriage, which explores the surprising things that make marriages fulfilling and what can put them on the rocks. Today, he joins host Elise Loehnen to ... Show More
58m 5s
Mar 2024
5 SECRETS to ALL Power Couples (HEAL Your Inner Wounds & ATTRACT Love!)
In today's episode, three power couples are interviewed and share the secrets to their thriving relationships. We’ll dive into the transformative power of self-awareness and how it can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. We explore the impact of inner child wounds—t ... Show More
54m 46s