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Mar 2023
45 m

Do We Rush Kids Too Much?

MARGARET ABLES AND AMY WILSON
About this episode

The Instagram account @mindfulmadre recently went viral with this post:

"We are becoming less tolerant of the pace of childhood. In a million ways we tell children: hurry up. Grow up. You are already behind." 

Sometimes we rush our kids because we're rushing ourselves—or because we fear our kids will fall behind if they don't keep up with the increasing demands the world has of children, even very small ones.

But who decided that precocious preschoolers are really what we should be aiming for? What are the costs to rushing children? Are there small daily ways in which we can let kids do their own thing at their own paces?

In this episode we discuss:

  • how a "daily context of stress" affects developing brains
  • whether small pushbacks are enough, or at least better than nothing
  • the moments when we've let our kids move at their own paces—even (especially) at Disney World


Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:


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