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Mar 2023
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Good and Bad Ways to Apologize to a Stru...

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If a young adult child is struggling, it's easy to blame yourself or even apologize for their bad choices. John and Danny discuss why some forms of apology are not helpful, plus, Jim Daly talked with Allison Bottke about when it's good for a parent to apologize to an adult son or daughter.


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