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Feb 2023
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E540 Ask Nick - My Mom Runs My Dating Ap...

Nick Viall
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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we discuss how to overcome dating app fatigue and feeling overwhelmed, especially in the phases between matching and going on a date. Then, we have our most recent Breakup Song of the Week submission. 

Our first caller met a British man on her recent cruise and isn’t sure if she should shoot her shot and pursue long distance. Is their connection based on their vacation spark, or compatibility? Our next caller is concerned that moving in with her boyfriend has led to relationship problems. We discuss the difference between a clean, defined break and a vague undefined relationship, and how it’s difficult but important to not feel bad for prioritizing your needs. Our final caller needs help figuring out if she should continue letting her mom run her dating apps. How can she regain control of her dating life?

“It’s just you and I talking here. Do you want to be with your boyfriend?”

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