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Oct 2020
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10 BIG IDEAS | LETTING GO | David Hawkin...

Clark Kegley - Refusing to Settle
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FIVE WORDS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE: You are not your feelings. If you look at human life, we see that it’s essentially one long elaborate struggle to escape. Escape our fears, inner feelings, conflict, suffering, etc. People explain it as “the human condition” even. What’s the method for doing this? Going over that technique and 10 Big ideas from Letting Go - the Pathway to Surrender by David R. Hawkins.

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STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THOUGHTS: when you hear the word “surrender” or “letting go” what comes up? Ask me that 5 years ago early 20s I would have said “DEFEAT!” or “GIVING UP!” - toxic narrative. Exhausting. Random. There’s peace in letting go/surrendering. Knowing which battles to choose in life - can’t fight them all. Can’t FIGURE everything out! The Point: Stop trying to change thoughts. You have 60k per day. Real root is the feeling. Go here.

REAL ROOT IS FEELINGS: Research showing thoughts aren’t stored in the mind - they are categorized. Like a file on the computer. Categorized under FEELINGS. Thousands/millions of thoughts can be REPLACED by a single emotion “Emotions are a record of the past” -- Emotions are more Primitive in brain — thoughts are NEWER, so less priority.

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SUPPRESSION // REPRESSION SUPPRESSION: Consciously done. REPRESSION: Subconsciously done. Repression is DEEPER - usually too much guilt/shame around event to deal with consciously. Stuff it down. The root of patterns we have in relationships, friendships, business, self-talk, money, family, etc.

EXPRESSION Pressure valve to release a little inner pressure -- goes back to repressing and surpassing more “Isn’t it GOOOD to express feelings?” - sometimes! But can be SELFISH. i.e. friend who was dating a manipulative woman. ALWAYS needing to “have a talk” - just her way of PROJECTING onto him all responsibility of a relationship.

Refusing to settle,

Clark

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