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Jan 2023
29m 50s

377 | Disrespectful Family

Joshua Fields Millburn, Ryan Nicodemus, T.K. Coleman
About this episode

The Minimalists speak with therapist and author Lori Gottlieb about family members who don’t respect boundaries. Listen to all 2 hours of episode 377 on The Minimalists Private Podcast.

Discussed in this episode:

How do we create a detente with loved ones who are completely intractable? (02:04)

How do we bring meaningful change to our relationships? (05:01)

What is “the parentified child”? (11:28)

What do you consider the ‘cost of admission’ for relationships? (14:21)

What are your views regarding nonnegotiables? (14:38)

Why is it so difficult for many to discover alternative solutions to problems in their lives? (15:30)

Why are boundaries rarely respected? (17:41)

How do I tactfully tell others to mind their own business when they intrude on my personal affairs? (20:12)

How do I better manage my OCD so I can be more present as a parent? (24:58)

What is the difference between balance and contentment? (24:13)

Detailed show notes: minimalists.com/podcast

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