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Jan 2023
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E534 Ask Nick - Playing Long Distance Ch...

Nick Viall
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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we discuss the idea of making a dating shopping list - is it setting you up for failure by judging people too quickly, or does it reduce the amount of disheartening dates on your calendar? Our first caller just got out of a four year situationship with a “man child” she works with after he made her the bottom of his priority list. To make matters worse, he then had a public melt down - in the office. Our next caller is playing a game of moving chicken with her long distance boyfriend. He lives in their hometown and she’s been commuting back four hours on weekends to see him from her new city. She knows she won’t be happy if she moves back, and needs to figure out how to ask him to try out city life on a trial basis.Our final caller is wondering if her boyfriend’s friend is acting too much like his girlfriend, including buying him an expensive vintage jacket for Christmas. Is there something going on between them that our caller doesn’t know about?

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