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Jan 2023
37m 16s

Pity, pity, pity

Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck
About this episode

This Isn't Therapy...but this is a fun, flirty, and fab conversation about pity (and her twin sister grandiosity).Through two lovely listener stories, Jake and Simon explore the very human behaviour of downward comparison ("I feel sorry for you" vs. "I'm sooOOoo glad I'm not you"). Ever compare yourself to someone's vacation pics and think "I would NEVER do that" ? Or run into an old friend you lost touch with and leave that interaction glad that "you didn't turn out like them?" It's okay! We won't judge! We all do it! Let's talk about it :)

Creators & Guests


Hello, hi! Follow us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣
Jake Ernst: @mswjake
Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣

Episode Mixed by Jordan Paluck

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