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Jan 2023
1h 30m

breaking the cycle of pain: moving on an...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

If you’re feeling stuck in the aftermath of a breakup, this episode is a space to help you begin untangling the pain and finding your way back to yourself. Healing from a traumatic separation isn’t a straightforward path—it’s filled with grief, self-doubt, and that persistent question: “Will I ever feel whole again?” We’ll dig deep into the emotional layers of heartbreak, looking at how to rebuild self-worth, embrace closure, and eventually, open up to love once more. We’ll explore how attachments, beliefs, and past traumas can shape our experience of love and loss. From breaking free of trauma bonds and recognizing the patterns of limerence—those addictive, all-consuming feelings that mimic love—to challenging the myth of a “perfect partner,” this episode is about grounding ourselves in reality and embracing a healthier view of relationships and self-worth.


Topics include:


  • Finding purpose through helping others and using altruism as a lifeline
  • Understanding limerence vs. true love, and breaking free from toxic cycles
  • Insights into trauma bonding and its effects on adult relationships
  • Letting go of the “One” myth to find a more balanced perspective on love
  • Guided visualization to help you process pain and start moving forward


Through these reflections, you’ll gain fresh perspectives on navigating breakup pain and new ways to reconnect with yourself.


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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.


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