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Dec 2022
36m 58s

061: The Secret Lives Of Children And Wh...

Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach
About this episode

Have you been wondering why your child is not sharing as many things as they used to? Do they give you one-word responses or would rather talk about things with their friends? Do they seem less interested in discussing different things with you? And does all of that make it seem as though they are hiding something from you or have secrets? 

Let's talk about it! 

First of all, this is important to address because it does create stress for us parents. It is not a pleasant experience to feel like your child is less interested in spending time together. And it is concerning to think they hold secrets from us.

And the second reason for this conversation is to give you a set of concepts to guide your understanding of what is happening for your child. And also, not the least important, what may be going on for you as a parent as your watch child grow and things between you change.

Tune in to this episode of The Parenting Presence to hear:

  • what is expected for children developmentally
  • what is the difference between secret and private
  • what happens when we worry and ask too many questions
  • and how to ensure we continue to have a solid relationship as our children grow and change.

 

 

 

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Podcast Host: Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach

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