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Nov 2022
10m 2s

Is Your Fear Of Pain Running Your Life?

Allison Carmen
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Sometimes we don't pursue a goal, a relationship, or a dream because we are afraid of the pain of disappointment, rejection, or failure. We might believe pain is our enemy and can forget that pain is part of life. Every pursuit presents setbacks and lessons, but if we face the pain when it comes, we can process it and find freedom -- the freedom to live with an open heart and feel what we must to experience the most life has to offer.

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