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Nov 2022
1h 38m

IS HE USING YOU? - Signs You Have POOR B...

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About this episode

The thought of family gatherings gives the best of anxiety. Navigating close relationships and those once or twice a year holiday encounters doesn’t have to be so intimidating with the right tools. 

The key is recognizing that you have disordered boundaries, and the Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, is back with us again to make this super easy to follow. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. The steps she lays out for you to take the Resentment Inventory are life changing. 

We all tell ourselves lies to avoid the conflict and get around difficult conversations but this doesn’t make our relationships any better, and it leaves us with more stress than being succinct, accurate, and honest about our preferences from the start.

By the time you finish this episode you’ll have the skills and strategies you’ll need to identify your disordered boundaries that need work, and catch the amplified emotions that are stemming from childhood traumas.


Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts


SHOW NOTES:

0:00 | Introduction to Terri Coles

0:36 | Take A Resentment Inventory

6:40 | Self Blame for Broken Boundaries

13:00 | Learned Boundaries From Childhood

23:19 | Reading Emotional Boundaries

30:48 | Unmet Needs In Relationship

34:43 | Internal Boundaries Are A Must

35:30 | Codependent Relationships

45:47 | Are You Auto-Advising People?

52:22 | Suppressed Anger Boundaries

58:40 | Tips To Express Your Boundaries

1:05:01 | Strategies for Family Gatherings

1:13:50 | Broken Boundaries Have Real Consequences


Follow Terri Cole:

Website: https://www.terricole.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw 

Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/ 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ 


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