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Nov 2022
37m 14s

The Science of Horniness

Pushkin Industries
About this episode

The pandemic is really killing the mood and making it hard to prioritize pleasure. A listener calls in about losing the motivation to have sex, even with herself. To help answer the listener's question, Emily introduces groundbreaking research known as the "dual control model" and offers a simple but radical shift in the way we think about horniness. 

If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show. 

 

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Check out Emily’s free worksheets on her website to start applying the science of the dual control model to your own life.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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