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Nov 2022
1h 25m

HOW TO GET UNSTUCK with DANIEL MATÉ

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About this episode

Do you feel stuck? Well, then you are meant to be here. And my two-part conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté was meant to bring us to this place …

The last question I asked Gabor Maté in our two-part conversation was: “What’s your biggest failure?” And he told me that his greatest failure in life was himself as a parent. So I had to ask his son Daniel to talk about that. Give his perspective.

And boy did he give it - and a whole lot more.

Daniel shares his personal stories, growth, and insight into the father-son best-seller, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture. The result is an enlightening conversation about childhood trauma, narcissism, narcissists, dealing with rifts in parent-adult-child relationships and sibling relationships …

And - really - all of this comes down to - getting stuck - AND unstuck - in life.

We also talk about the genesis of the father and son’s HELLO AGAIN PROJECT, which offers a fresh start for parents and their adult children.

IN EPISODE 20 YOU WILL LEARN:

• How childhood trauma could get you stuck as an adult. Daniel and I share some personal examples. (Also, Gabor, Daniel really loves you! And, papa, I really love you!)• Where to start when you want to get unstuck - and lead a happier more fulfilled life.• Why you’re probably looking in the wrong place to fix - or deal with - that rift with your parent or sibling.• Where to look to heal that family relationship - or to move forward.• What to do when a family member has an addiction.• You are not the only one.

And listen, getting used to something shouldn’t be the reason you don’t do something good and allow yourself to stay stuck. If you’re not happy, instead of moving away from everything and confining yourself to your tight little space, why don’t you move TOWARDS something?

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If you want to catch the original Instagram Live with Daniel and me. It is right over here. <https://www.instagram.com/p/CkKEvFXJtr0/?hl=en>

And if you want to get unstuck with Daniel, you can find him at <https://www.walkwithdaniel.com/>.



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