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Oct 2022
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#brunchtalk: How to handle your SO's fli...

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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You're trying your best not to be the jealous type...but even the best of us can be triggered. On this week’s brunch talk we’re talking about how to not loose your shit when your partner's ex or just flirty friend comes around, how to maintain your confidence in your relationship, and if it's ever ok to tell someone not to be friends with this person anymore. And we're talking about ube (which can get quite dirty) so buckle up!

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