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Sep 2022
31m 54s

What to Say (and Not Say) to a Hurting F...

JORDAN LEE DOOLEY
About this episode

When a friend or family member is hurting, it can be difficult to know what to say.

Have you ever been in that situation? 🙋‍♀️

You want to help and support them, but maybe you still find yourself unsure of what to say. Or maybe you have a habit of using common cliches like “everything happens for a reason” (which BTW, often end up doing more harm than good).

Even though you have good intentions and you genuinely care, your words (or lack of words) can actually end up being hurtful to the person you’re trying to help.

So what’s a girl to do?

In this episode, Jordan pulls from her own experiences and shares the most helpful things to say to a friend who’s hurting.

By walking you through what NOT to say and suggesting alternatives that will be more helpful, this episode will help you show up for your friend when they need you the most.

Tune in and learn:

  • Common cliches that can be more harmful than helpful
  • Alternative phrases to say to comfort a friend
  • The importance of not trying to fix a situation
  • The difference between being there for someone and being there with them
  • Ways you can support a friend walking through a hard time

P.S. In case you missed it, SoulScripts is opening back up on October 3rd and the OG crewneck is coming back! Women go through a lot of hard things and what better way to show your support than the phrase "Your Brokenness Is Welcome Here"? Make sure to mark your calendar and check out the designs here!

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