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Sep 2022
54m 6s

45: Listen to this if your partner watch...

NATALIE KENNEDY
About this episode

A question we've had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn't. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can't possibly cover in one episode!

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