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Sep 2022
26m 19s

Episode 124: How To Have Great Outercour...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

The terms “sex” and “intercourse” are often used interchangeably, but the truth is that sex doesn’t have to include intercourse at all! In fact, outercourse often makes for even more satisfying sex. "Outercourse" is the general term for any sexual activities that aren’t focused on vaginal or anal penetration. By practicing more outercourse, we stand to benefit in a lot of ways, from discovering new sources of pleasure to adding more novelty in the bedroom to closing the orgasm gap. Today’s episode is a guide to outercourse, and how you can use it to level-up your sex life.

I am joined once again by Dr. Amy Pearlman, a board-certified urologist and sexuality educator. Some of the topics we discuss include:

  • The importance of expanding our definition of sex and elevating outercourse.
  • Where to start if you're new to outercourse.
  • How sex toys and vibrators can take outercourse to a whole new level (as part of this, I talk about the vibrator that changed my sex life!).
  • How to talk to your partner about trying something new in the bedroom.
  • Tips for maintaining a healthy and satisfying sex life.
Check it out! To learn more about Dr. Pearlman, visit pearlmanmds.com and follow @amypearlmanmd on Instagram.

Thanks to FirmTech (myfirmtech.com) for sponsoring this episode!

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